In this video I am talking about how to speak your truth.

If you have crazy body pain and/or feel totally exhausted this is directly connected to not speaking your truth so press play now sista.

You will learn..

  • How to be in control of your feelings because happiness really is a choice YEW!

  • How to stop giving your power away so you feel EMPOWERED AF

  • How to let go of the perfectionist, controlling energy

  • A simple tool to stop feeling like a victim and instead be filled with unconditional love.


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  • My 5 step process to Having The Life You Want! 

  • How to feel in control of your happiness.

  • How you can breakthrough the negative, exhausted life you have.

  • How to finally release your guilt and believe you are enough

  • EXACTLY HOW TO REACH YOUR FULL POTENTIAL


Video Transcription

Lani:
Hi. So in this masterclass, I’m going to talk about speaking your truth, and why it is so important and how it is actually… My partner keeps saying actually. How it’s actually… Inside joke. …impossible to live up to your full potential, if we are not speaking our truth.

Lani:
And because society has this thing that’s a lie, that’s been passed down, that’s being feminine is weak. There’s a lot of women, I used to do this too, going around and they’re masculine, controlling, fighting and like, “Look, I’m speaking my truth.”

Lani:
And so dude, write this down. If you’re fighting all the time with everybody, and if you say shit like I know, but your life is not a living embodiment of it, then that energy is coming from a lack, and a toxic masculine.

Lani:
There is no truth in that because we’re women. I literally used to think that… I was like, “The more fights fight I win…” Like, “You’re not getting away with that. How dare you?”

Lani:
I would just had to win everything and be right. And I was like, “Oh, that’s my truth.” That couldn’t be further from it, because we don’t feel good when we fight. There’s nobody that’s like, “Oh, I feel so enlightened and peaceful, and I’m so trusting to the universe.” I’ve never heard anybody say that. I’ve never just felt anybody’s energy, that felt amazing and abundant.

Lani:
When we’re in that gnarly, head masculine, I know, the freaking know-it-all, the controlling, the fighter, the one that always has to be right, when we are in that space, in that mindset, it has a negative effect on everything we do, because we’re already coming in this attitude of defense and masculine, and it creates a lot of friction through our life.

Lani:
We’re going to talk today about what speaking your truth really is, and how to do it, and some tips. It’s going to be amazing for you. This was totally the game changer for me, because I used to use all of my energy fighting to be right, and feeling so proud of myself.

Lani:
Like, “Oh yeah, look, nobody got away with that,” while I’m dying in the next room, feeling lonely and broken and depressed. And so I would never ever equate that to winning today. But to my ego, it was like, “Yeah, you went up to him, you put him down.”

Lani:
So here’s one really beautiful, standard to… If you are really serious about living up to your full potential, and speaking your truth, then this standard is a golden ticket for you.

Lani:
I’ve written truth equals I. Now it goes right into my first heart point, bullet point, that says, you get to choose how you feel. For so long, I was in this full masculine, controlling, and I would say like, “You ruined my day. You’re an asshole. You, you, you.” And so I was just always super obsessed, and hyper-focused with everything outside of me.

Lani:
Like, “This manager ruined my life. My mom said this and it’s ruining my life.” And so I was like a walking reactive ball. Like eeeh, always having to get the last word in, always having to be right.

Lani:
Today I know, because nobody can jump inside my body and my soul, and change my feelings… I’m not a freaking Teddy Ruxpin, and somebody can jump in, and just make me say this thing, I am responsible for how I feel and that’s so empowering.

Lani:
When we say, “I’m just speaking my truth, you, you, you, you,” then that is a sure sign that we are an ego. That is a dead giveaway that we are in our head, and you can’t hit the nail on the head for the opposite of truth.

Lani:
So it is, we are not speaking our truth when we have you, you, you, you, you, because, I mean, we love to blame. I was the queen of blaming my ex-husband for ruining my life, but nobody had me in handcuffs.

Lani:
I was like, “You’re ruining my life,” acting like I’m in prison with handcuffs, but I woke up and chose to be in that relationship, and be there every day.

Lani:
This is how I grew up anyway, and maybe you can resonate. There was no communication, it was just fighting. It was either everybody agreed, which was so rare, so the peace was less than 20% of my life. But then when we didn’t agree, it was crazy and it was totally fighting.

Lani:
And so all I learned, the only tool that I had when I was little, was fight till the death, and you, you, you. I completely have conversations with people that I disagree with, because I’m not disagreeing with the fact that their essence is this beautiful, pure, peace of the universe, the same as mine.

Lani:
We are one, we are manifested from the universe, so we’re all connected. I can disagree with ideas and that’s okay, and it’s not a World War III. It’s not a crazy fight till the death, and it’s not uncomfortable.

Lani:
I can still be totally connected, even when it might not be the most awesome conversation. It doesn’t turn into anger. When there’s anger there, that’s not who we really are. We’re not this bitchy, bully voice, that’s like an a-hole and controlling and pushing and masculine. That’s not the real us.

Lani:
Simply am like that, that’s not our truth. We can 100% speak always with love and respect, and that doesn’t mean that we’re like, “Everything’s perfect, everything is fine.” That doesn’t mean you’re faking it.

Lani:
It definitely means though, “Hey, I feel super insecure about that, was that your intention?” Or, “I felt totally alone in this moment, what was your intention? What did you mean? I don’t want to assume anything.”

Lani:
It’s so easy to have a conversation, but as women, we love to overcomplicate and overchat, and when we’re coming in with that societal masculine like, “Speaking my truth means getting my way.”

Lani:
That is the opposite. There’s no feminine connection in that energy. So you get to choose how you feel. That’s so freaking empowering. Dude, nobody can jump in your soul and F with you.

Lani:
So when we can understand like, “Okay, these are my feelings. I can focus on something else.” Never losing the power and never feeling powerless or unsafe, because we know that we can choose choice. Write that down. Having a choice is like wonder woman energy. It’s just the most empowering and beautiful place to be I get to. Feel so good.

Lani:
Blaming equals disempowered. I mean, I’ve already brought up with my ex-husband, but up until I was 26, I was literally a little five-year-old brat, just talking shit on people when they left the room.

Lani:
This chick in yoga ruined my class, and this guy in the surf ruined my surf. And my mom, she called me and said this. So if somebody’s choices, because we all choose how we speak and how we feel and our temperament and our energy.

Lani:
Nobody can just make you lose your shit. We have this choice in it. So when we’re sitting in this space of, you are making me feel like this, that’s called blame. That’s a victim energy. That’s not wonder woman energy. That’s being in the head. It’s being disempowered, usually a toxic masculine.

Lani:
There’s no space for you to just ground around, take a pause, come into your heart, and we pigeonhole into like, “You.” When blame there’s one road, and it’s like, “I’m a victim. You did this to me.”

Lani:
Then we just usually go down the rabbit hole, and that’s when shit gets all… We fight with people, we get sick, accidents happen. Feels like doomsday, all these bad things are happening.

Lani:
It’s like, “Oh my God, one thing after another. How many things can I take?” But what I’m going to ask you to do, is take a really big check-in.

Lani:
Whatever in your life you want, and you don’t have, really go deeper than that and ask yourself, are you blaming somebody? Your ex, your mom, your sister, the economy, the president, religion, the weather, your country.

Lani:
Because if we didn’t have any blame, then we would have no excuses, and we would have all the power, and we would just show up like a boss, and do the things that we needed to do, instead of crying about what other people do with their choices.

Lani:
If somebody chooses to be a dick, okay, that’s your choice, but dude, I’m in control of my feelings, I’m going choose happy. You know what I’m saying?

Lani:
Third point, are your words creating dog shit or harmony. I thought of this challenge the other day and it’s, I’m going to challenge you to go through your phone, you can wait just a few minutes, I’m almost done, and go through the last five conversations.

Lani:
So text messages or Instagram or Facebook or whatever, WhatsApps, that you’ve had, and see if the energy was, are you feeling sorry for yourself? Are you complaining? Complaining about the weather or winter, or this.

Lani:
Are you having the opposite effect of love? Every woman tells me like, “I want to have it all. I want love. Oh my gosh, you’re so confident. You’re so happy. Your body, you’re so strong. You’re with your soulmate. You have money. You’re successful. You’re spiritual.”

Lani:
And I’m like, “Yeah, totally because I’m choosing this,” because I can look through the last 50 conversations in my phone, and I’m not complaining or blaming or talking shit, or saying, “You did this to me, you ruined my life.”

Lani:
That’s all dog shit energy. That is totally making it about self, it’s really self-centered, it’s victim energy, and it sucks. Because I know that when you get a shitty message from somebody, you’re not like, “Yes, inspired AF.” You’re like, “Ugh.” It’s like, “Ugh.” We feel it like a freaking gut punch.

Lani:
So are you creating dog shit? You can just measure real quick, go through your last five messages and see how bitchy and complaining they were.

Lani:
Or are you creating harmony? So are you taking responsibility? Like, “Damn, I didn’t try my best today, so I obviously didn’t get the results that I wanted, but I’m going to wake up tomorrow. It’s a brand new day.”

Lani:
It’s not about being perfect. I used to really have this idea that, “Oh, everything will be perfect, and then I’ll be happy. I’ll never have a challenge. I’ll never experience somebody being mean, or I’ll never experience, fear, or crazy weather.”

Lani:
Challenges is the only way that I can look at it, and that is an insane measurement, because the very essence of life is that we are going to experience challenges.

Lani:
You can still be creating harmony. The things I talk about, aren’t super pleasant. Like when I say I was sexually abused as a child, and I was super poor, and I blamed my ex-husband so hard for ruining my life, I completely blamed till literally I wanted to take my own life. That’s how disempowered I felt when I blamed.

Lani:
And so it’s not that I’m only talking about pleasant things, but I’m taking responsibility for where I am and what I have, and that brings harmony in.

Lani:
That’s why we love movies with the hero’s journey. You hear me talk about the hero’s journey a lot. So It’s not about being perfect and everything’s fine, huh.

Lani:
That’s called faking. Everything’s great huh. That’s called being disconnected. That’s weird. Jesus, it’s insane. But when we take responsibility and it’s not like, “Oh yeah, you know why I didn’t freaking get that job interview? Because of this bitch.”

Lani:
It’s like, “Oh, okay. I didn’t get the job interview, you know what I’m going to do? I’m going to hire a coach, who’s going to help me train for interviews.” That is so much more inspiring, but in both cases we still lost. So it’s losing with grace.

Lani:
I want you to check in. Are you creating dog shit or harmony, with your words and with your messages, and with your intention?

Lani:
And the last one is, do you measure success by getting your way? Do you measure truth by getting your way in conversations, or by feeling peace within?

Lani:
So again, it’s just rounding it back. It’s just so simple. We’re brainwashed in this masculine to, “Oh, I spoke my truth because I was right and I won.” And it’s like, “Oh.”

Lani:
If we’re measuring our success by winning and strong arming and controlling and fighting. Like, “I am not so happy because everybody agrees with me, because everybody tells me I’m amazing.”

Lani:
Dude, the more successful we get and the bigger we grow, the more… It’s just a numbers game. Of course there’s going to be more women in their head, that are upset that I have it all.

Lani:
It’s just a numbers game. I don’t take it personal if somebody sends me a message, I understand that’s a reflection of them, but I’m not going to measure…

Lani:
“Oh, I spoke my truth, because this woman sent me a message, and it was psycho, so I fucking told her…” That energy is so gnarly, and it’s not…

Lani:
If I’m in harmony and someone doesn’t feel safe for love, so they therefore act that out, I’m not going to drop there, fight in this ego dog shit, cockfight and then be like, “Oh, I’m so much better,” and get on a high horse.

Lani:
Dude, I’m going to keep cruising in my love clouds, and I’m not going to measure by getting my way or winning a fight, or overpowering or strong-arming, I measure by how I feel.

Lani:
So I’m like, “It’s not about getting my weight. It’s not about being perfect or right.” If I feel powerless because I’m blaming, I don’t feel peace inside. I feel taken advantage of, I feel resentment and I feel mad anger.

Lani:
Seriously, when I was blaming my ex-husband for ruining my life, I walked into that marriage, so there’s no blame. Man, it’s crazy that I was so disempowered. I was so angry and I was so upset, and I just kept measuring by like, “I need to win this fight because he hurt me so bad, and that energy is…”

Lani:
I can’t change what’s happened. I can’t control anybody else. I didn’t feel peace within. I felt so unworthy and I felt so powerless. I literally felt like an ant could whoop my ass. I felt so powerless.

Lani:
I’m going to have you shift your barometer, and instead of, “Oh, everybody tells me I’m right and amazing,” because that’s never going to happen in a boo. No, it’s impossible, not going to happen.

Lani:
Let’s measure truth and speaking our truth, by how we feel. So by feeling peace within, because I’m winning when I feel peace, and I’m winning when I feel happiness. I don’t have to get the last word in. I don’t need to message people back that are just having a fight with themselves. It has nothing to do with me.

Lani:
So I don’t message back, because that’s not how I measure. I’m like, “How do I feel? Okay. I feel stoked. I feel supported. I feel love.” That’s how I measure truth. Okay, I’m going to tell you what your next step is.

Lani:
Okay. So your next step is definitely come to my free online workshop. The link is in the description, so don’t miss out on this, do not procrastinate on this sis, it’s going to freaking help so much.

Lani:
You’re not powerless. You’re not a dumdum. Life isn’t harder for you. It wasn’t easier for me to have forgiveness and acceptance, and access my feminine and have it all. It wasn’t easier. It’s just that when you don’t have the recipe, it makes it really impossible to get there.

Lani:
This workshop is to help you find your purpose, and that means all across the board. Dude, you don’t have to settle in any areas. A queen doesn’t beg for crumbs and be like, “Why should I want more?” It’s your birthright. Yes, you deserve to have more.

Lani:
It’s online, and this is a new free workshop. I’m super excited about this one, because it is bad-ass, and it’s going to help you so much. It’s literally the five steps you need to do, to live up to your full potential.

Lani:
So five virtually unknown secrets that will help you break free from guilt and find love. And if you’re like, “Oh my gosh…” What if I’m describing you about speaking your truth, you always have to win, and take it so personally, Mrs. I know, but your life is not a living embodiment of it, it always blows my mind.

Lani:
I was so that chick. I was a disaster, my business was shit. It wasn’t even a business. You can’t even call it a business, if you don’t have any clients. And anytime somebody would give me feedback, I would take that as like, “Oh, you think I’m not good enough?”

Lani:
I would just fight. And it’s like, “Oh, I know.” Okay, really, you know? Why don’t you have it then? Why are you not happy? Why is your life not a living embodiment of it?

Lani:
We are primed from society, because again, it’s so weak if you’re in your feminine, but that’s not the only way. You have another option, you have another choice. So like I said, having a choice makes us so beautiful and empowering.

Lani:
If you’re going to settle for less than you were put here to do, but you’re not going to choose to do something different, and then you’re going to feel sorry for yourself, but you have a choice, that is crazy. That’s insane.

Lani:
So make your choice. Definitely come to the workshop. The link is in the description. Literally going to blow your mind. I am not about busywork. I am not about just like, “Just manifest it.” Really bitch, how?

Lani:
I’m going to give you solid tools that you can start using right now to speak your truth, to have compassion, to get out of your head, to come into your heart and to access your feminine, because that’s where we’re safe, and that’s what love is, and I care about how you feel. I want you to feel peaceful and happiness. So click that link now.