Love suffocates hate / We need to spread more love in to this world, more now than ever.

Video Transcription

Lani:

Hello, this video I’m talking about love, and the title, what we’ve titled this video is Love Suffocates Hate. The reason I’m talking about this today is I know how I can make a change and I know that… I’ve been angry. I’ve been sad. I’ve cried a lot, specifically speaking about racism. I am American, however, I’m currently not in America. I haven’t lived there since 2012. And the pain, the racism is real. So I wanted to do this video because I know that when I have anxiety and I am living in fear, I can’t help anybody else, and I know this isn’t about me. So I wanted to share some of the ways that I am able to make a change and that I’ve been sharing with my clients and how they’re able to make changes as well.

Lani:
What I mean by “I can’t help anybody when I have anxiety” is there’ve been plenty of times in my life, and we’re human beings, I’m not saying that we don’t get angry. There’s so much to be angry about. But I’m saying that when I am in that angry state, I do start to make it about me. “I’m so angry. Why are they doing this?” So I start pointing fingers at others instead of being the change that I want to see in myself. When I get angry, I get heartburn. When I get angry, I get anxiety. When I get angry, I can’t sleep and I have no energy. And I’ve cried. It’s so sad. Every time I think about George saying he can’t breathe and then thinking about just being judged by the color of their skin, I don’t know what it feels like to have somebody cross the road just because of my skin color. I don’t know what it feels like to get a talk when I’m young saying some people won’t like you because of your skin color.

Lani:
I don’t know what that feels like and that pain of knowing that a child is not feeling safe, and I know that every child deserves unconditional love. I know that every child deserves support, and that’s my mission and that’s how I want to help. I know that every human being deserves unconditional love because when their heart is beating, that is enough. So for me, the way that I can make the changes, and I am saying that what helps me make the change is feeling. It is always uncomfortable for every human being to feel. This is the philosophy that I have been running on since I have been able to make changes in my own life, but I’m channeling that into making a change and actually being able to help others and be the change that I want. So if I want equality for every human, because this is basic fucking needs, this is like breathing. Every human in the world deserves the right to fucking live without the racism that’s happening today.

Lani:
It’s like breathing to me. I don’t see another way. I’m like, “What do you mean how is this? This is like breathing. Every human deserves this. This freedom.” It’s insane. It’s hard to wrap my brain around. And then I say, “Well, I want to help,” because I’m channeling this emotion that I’m feeling and I’m actually being the change that I want and taking steps. The steps that I’m able to take are donating, helping out, signing petitions, bringing awareness. And what I do know to be true is that an empowered woman doesn’t hurt others, so if I want to help be this change of love and this… The right for human equality and to end racism that we’ve been tolerating, I can’t point my finger and go like, “Oh, this is uncomfortable. I have to feel this. They should do something. They should do something.”

Lani:
So I listened. I listened to the experiences of other people that I haven’t experienced before so I can understand that there needs to be a change. And since the beginning, every spiritual teacher has always said, “In order to change the world, we must change ourselves first.” So I know that if I am sitting on the couch and I’m not engaged in any hatred on Facebook, I have no energy from that. The last time that I was in my head and making it about me and had severe hatred for someone else, I blamed my last relationship for ruining my life. I was dehabilitated by anxiety and by fear. The last time I was in that situation, I wanted to take my own life. I was suicidal and I couldn’t help anybody. I can’t help others who need my energy right now. I can’t help others who need these donations. I can’t help others if I can’t take care of myself.

Lani:
I’m not saying that there’s a wrong way to get to love, but I am saying that if you’re in my network and you’re listening, we want the same thing. We want love. We want the same thing. We want love. And it takes energy to make a change. So I know how to help by empowering a woman, because a disempowered woman wastes her time being angry and fighting things on Facebook that are making it about her. And that’s not how we make this change. It’s not about me. I’m here to help others that don’t have a voice. It’s not about me. It’s not about me getting a negative comment. It’s not about me being rejected. It’s not about me not being liked, although I do have to say that I’m so proud of my network because I have always taken the path of least resistance. I’m not afraid to stand up for what’s right. It is crazy that in 2020, Barack Obama was like, “Dude, how is this normal in 2020? We must do better. We can do better. We have to do better.” It’s insane that this is a basic need, to breathe. This right to breathe. This is so mind blowing that not every human has the right today. It’s so insane that we’re having this conversation. It’s like, “What the hell?” Horrifying.

Lani:
I know that in order for me to be this change that I want, which is equality, which is to end racism, anti-racism, against racism, every child, having these incredible opportunities of unconditional love, every human being able to be free and breathe and live their dreams because their heart is beating, I have to have energy, and if I’m making it about me and feeling sorry for myself, and I’m speaking as a woman who’s not black, obviously. And I’m speaking as a… I haven’t had the experience. I will not understand that experience. I can’t understand the pain that that brings. I’m saying the way that I can help is by being the change that I want to see, by having energy, by speaking up for what is right, by raising my standards, no longer tolerating, nothing, nowhere near, anything less than 100% equality and safety for every human.

Lani:
I heard someone saying until of us are safe, none of us are safe. And I believe that until all of us are safe, we have work to be done. Until all of us are breathing freely. Until all children feel safe. Until all children’s needs are met. Until all humans are safe, I believe there’s work to be done. If I’m acting like this is about me, because it’s not about me right now. I it’s not about me. But if I’m acting like it’s about me and I have this anger, then I can’t help anybody. I get sick. Again, I get crazy insomnia and anxiety. So I know that I have to have energy and I can’t take shit personally and I have to have compassion, and it’s like a peaceful warrior, like Thích Nhất Hạnh says. This is how I have been able to make an impact and help those in need and be the voice for those who are being persecuted against for something, when they haven’t done anything. For something they haven’t done.

Lani:
I have to have energy, and if I have anxiety, I can’t help. I had anxiety for 36 years and I didn’t help anybody. When I was angry I didn’t help anybody. So my inspiration for this video is I’m not saying that my way is right. I’m saying that I know that we have this intention and this goal, that’s basic needs and it needs to happen now. I would be so… I did my podcast to day and I said, “What will 2020 be remembered for? I hope we remember it for the time where the whole entire world came together and we raised our standards and we said, ‘we no longer tolerate racism.’ I hope that’s what 2020 is remembered for.” And I am able to use my emotion as motivation to be the change and make the change and help others, because it’s not about me.

Lani:
And I know that when I’m connected and I’m present and I am love and I’m in my heart’s center, and it doesn’t mean that I wasn’t angry, and it doesn’t mean that I’m not sad and feeling it, but I know that for me, and if you can resonate with this, that I have to be present and connected in order to help others. In order to serve. I serve mother earth. I serve the light. I am a vessel. It is not about me. And I cannot do that while I am dehabilitated by anxiety and taking onboard energy from other people and not making a move.

Lani:
So I believe, and my philosophy is that… I’ve seen this happen. I’ve measured my results. I am helping right now. I’m making an impact. I’m donating. I’m signing petitions. I’m doing things for others. I’m speaking for others who don’t have a voice. I am listening to the experiences of others that I have not had before and I’m sharing truths and speaking for what is right, which is love. Which is that racism must end. Which is that 2020 can be the year that we no longer tolerate that and no longer accept that. And I can do this when I am present. So one of the ways, the best way for me, is to get out of my head and get into my body. The anxiety doesn’t help. Reading all the negative comments don’t help. Taking part in fighting… But what are we doing to help? This is always the question that I ask. I don’t engage.

Lani:
I feel so proud, again, of my network because I saw Tank’s Good News on Instagram and he said he lost 3000 followers for doing a post about racism, and I thought, “That’s crazy.” I’m so grateful and blessed that my network… I mean, again, I’ve never taken the path of least resistance. So I feel like everybody in my network is like, “Dude, we want the same things. We want to be the best versions of ourselves so we can serve. So we can be a vessel. So we can help. So we can bring the light in. So we can make the changes,” because sitting on the couch and pointing fingers at other people to make the change is not how we make the change. Waiting for someone else to do it or hiding because it’s uncomfortable, that’s not how we make the change. And I love feeling, I love feeling. I use this pain as leverage. I hear stories of other people who have horrifying events and I use that as leverage to help make a change.

Lani:
So getting out of my head and into my body, because I know that I help and I am a vessel and I’m serving and I’m so open to listening and helping. And everyday I’m asking, “How can I make a change?” And I measure, how did I make a change? How did I make a positive impact? How am I helping? How am I ending helping to end racism? How am I helping to bring freedom to every human? How am I helping these children who deserve to be safe and love? And I measure it and I actually can see it. So if we have anxiety and if we have hatred for me, I cannot go forward in that energy. I get sick. I get broken and it’s bad. I cannot help anybody. I can’t even take care of myself.

Lani:
So if you’d like help getting out of your head, I’ve got a few meditations. One specifically is a complete healing meditation and how to heal anxiety, because in order to make a change, we have to have our energy. We have to be present. We can’t be making it about us. We have to speak the truth and use our voice on behalf of those who don’t have one. And we all deserve this unconditional love. Thank you for listening. There’s so much more I could say and go on. I am here to plant this seed. For me, I make the best change when I’m a peaceful warrior and we can do this together. I know we can. I believe in it. I feel unconditional love. I felt that. I’ve seen that positive effect that it has. Kindness and kindness and kindness and kindness because an empowered woman cannot hurt others. So when we want to make the change, we must make the change within ourselves. We must be the change. Whatever we feel the world is withholding from us, we must share with the world. Thanks for listening, and I’ll see you soon.