How to reprogram your mind to stay positive during hard times / Learn my 5 or 6 steps that you can use during hard times to program your mind to stay positive.

We all go through hard times, more so now, and its important to stay positive during the hard times, so you need to reprogram your mind to stay positive during hard times.

In this video I share the tools I use to stay positive during my hard times. It took some reprogramming, but when you follow these steps you will stay positive.

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VIDEO TRANSCRIPTION

Lani:
In this video I’m talking about how to reprogram your mind to stay positive even during hard times. Because we all know the fuck is happening right now, so I’m going to give you some amazing nuggets. Before we get started, hit the bell icon, hit the subscribe button. Every Tuesday and Thursday I’m releasing amazing videos. I’ll probably go more, because we all know I have time on my hands now. And hit the like button, because that helps so much. My intention is to help a million women feel empowered by the end of 2020, and I need your help. Liking the video helps so much.

Lani:
I’m talking about how to reprogram the mind to stay positive even during hard times. It’s so easy to have something really stressful come up, and then because we don’t want to take responsibility for this isn’t my problem, this is the virus’ problem. We completely give our power away. If you separate from this isn’t my problem, this is the external problem, then it’s a really crazy way to live our life. All we’re doing is going, I can only be happy when everything on the outside and everything externally is going perfectly, exactly the way I think it should be and it should act. That’s impossible, because I don’t even act the way I think I should act all the time. Nobody is 100%, nothing is perfect, and we can never control what’s going on externally.

Lani:
My first tip for how I am staying positive, and my partner, and my clients, and everyone in my crew is, I’m not giving my power away to the external. I’m going, all right, cool. The only thing that I can control is how I feel right now. With that being said, I don’t expect this of myself. I’m not like, you fucking idiot. You should never get stressed out. You’re supposed to be positive 100% of the time. We have feelings, we are human, they arise. Crying is an amazing way, crying from an embodied place, not from the head where we feel super sorry for ourselves and we’re acting like everything is separate and out of our control. I think that we were given these tear ducts to completely process energy, pain, trauma, stress, and emotion. Crying is an amazing way for me to process. We have to feel our shit. Nobody gets to skip this step.

Lani:
Anytime we are in an unchartered territory or going through something new, the unknown is always stressful. I don’t think that we’re failing, or we’re big fat losers just because we get stressed out. It’s just the way that it is. Anytime I am in the unknown, I always am like, this is new. And it sends like this message to my body that’s like, new, new, new. My evolutionary brain’s like, new is dangerous. Then I override it, because I’ve reprogrammed to be positive. I’m like, no, this is not danger. It is new. I’ll give you that much. But it’s not dangerous, and we can totally manage. I feel this way all the time, every day. It’s not only just because of the virus. When I moved to Bali it was so amazing and so epic. It was something I always wanted to do, but I was so scared shitless. It was the unknown. It was totally unchartered territory. I had never done it before.

Lani:
Let’s be really understanding what ourselves. I always like to say it’s not failing because you’re afraid, or you’ve gone into the unknown, or you were negative. It’s not failing, but it’s winning when we can come back into our body, when we can focus on what we can control, and when we let the negative feelings go. It’s never happened where I haven’t been able to shift my energy. When I didn’t want to like, I’m not going to meditate, because that’s going to help me feel better. I’m not going to fucking have a chat with myself and really feel this, or cry, or process it, or dance like all my tools. I’m not going to do that, because that will make me feel better, and I want to be pissed. When I don’t want to change my energy, I don’t change it. But every time I’ve ever wanted to shift and change, I have.

Lani:
When we are dealing with new stuff, obviously this is new for all of us alive now. This has happened many times throughout history, but for us this is new. It is going to seem and feel stressful. What I work on is, I don’t try and take the stress away, because that’s impossible, because that means that I wouldn’t be growing. We really only have two options. We’re either growing or dying. I’m not going to die, so that means I’m growing. That means that I have to do new shit. That means that there are always new problems. I feel this way every day, because I’m growing. I’ve made a promise to myself with conviction. I know I’m here to make an impact. I know what my purpose is. I know that I want to help a million women feel empowered, because the way that we change the world is by empowering women.

Lani:
I always have new problems, just got goosebumps. It’s like, fuck, we’ll do some growth or some launch. I’m like, I didn’t even think this was an option, didn’t even think of this problem. I do like to laugh about it and obviously when we’re like super grumpy in the moment, shit isn’t funny. One of my favorite tools is I’ll bring humor in as fast as they can. With me and my partner, we have a little game. We don’t get offended. I have the game. If I’m getting like super grumpy or stressed out, I’ll be like, am I being a bitch or are you being a dick? He’s like, I’m not being a dick. I have to like feel it. It’s so funny. When I say that, I laugh, and we laugh. We can smash out of it. Humor is my favorite way to help bring in those positive vibes, help to reprogram.

Lani:
One thing that we need to be so picky about is the shit that you’re letting in. I’m not having the news run. I’m not listening. Specifically right now, we’re dealing with the virus. I never have the news coming in. Since I moved to Bali in 2012, I didn’t have a TV and I was like, oh my gosh. It was just this natural, I feel lighter. I hadn’t been listening to all this crazy shit that was planting these negative, fear-based seeds in my subconscious. I’ve always been so picky. I don’t watch horror movies. I don’t watch scary movies. I don’t listen to music that has like a negative, gnarly, evil, angry feeling. I don’t read negative shit.

Lani:
Especially about me, if there’s negative comments, it’s like, dude, I’m not here to be liked. I’m here to share, the things that really helped me go from rock bottom, from super negative suicidal at my worst, to being an empowered woman who is inspired, and positive, and has a lot of energy. I get to share that. I don’t read negative shit about myself. I don’t need to read negative comments about myself. I can always find the humor in it. So there’s that. Be super, super picky. That’s a huge, huge, great, amazing nugget that I can give you now. The last one is, be super mindful, and get your AM and your PM routine on point. The worst thing that you can do in hard times, or when you’re feeling stressed, when something’s new, because, dude, guess what? The virus is going to be gone, and your ass is going to still be waking up negative as fuck. Then you’re going to find something else to blame.

Lani:
This was my game changer, the two nuggets, the two freaking gold mines that I just dropped on you. Being so picky about what’s coming in the AM and the PM. My morning routine and my night routine is on point. And understanding that because I’ve been extremely stressed out, I’ve been extremely negative. I have been in fear for my life. I have not been able to eat. I have gone into hiding. I have everything that people are going through now. I’ve been through that but there was no virus. I realized that I always had a reason. It was, it’s my mom, And then it was, it’s the boyfriend that cheated on me, and then it was that. I always had, the Bally lawyer that stole my last three pennies, and I almost starved. I always had something.

Lani:
What makes me feel really empowered and what will help you reprogram to be positive is, yes, of course this is new, and when it’s new we have a new problem, and we acknowledge like, holy shit, this is new. I’m feeling uncomfortable. This is the unknown, damn. This is stretching me and challenging me. But not blaming it for our misery. If you have problems before the virus, your ass is going to have problems after. If you were suffering with negativity before the virus, it’s not the virus. Do you see what I’m saying? That’s a really hard pill to swallow because fuck, that means that we are the ones that have to change. That one is huge.

Lani:
The last one is, and I say this often, is the worst thing you can do is go on your phone first thing in the morning. The worst thing you can do is send these messages, stress and negativity through your brain. Even if you’re like, I’m just reading positive emails or messages, it’s like, where’s the time where you connected? Where’s the time where you filled up with love, and connected to the universe, and God, and mother earth? If you don’t have that time, your fuse becomes really, really short. Your patience is gone. The less energy you have, the more triggered you get when you have these new problems and when you’re in a hard time.

Lani:
For me it’s the more connected I am, the more embodied, the more energy I have. A problem that would push you on your ass and freak you the F out, we’ve totally had problems. We had to flee Australia, buying an extra ticket to London to make sure my ass could get in so they didn’t shut the borders, got into our Airbnb, got a message at the owner was coming back. We had to find a new place for three months. We’ve had really big problems that would set other people like off the deep end. They’d freak the fuck out. It’s not that my life is easier, I don’t have problems. Because I’m embodied, and I have so much energy, and I’m so expanded, it’s like, solutions. That’s just because I’m not going on my phone, or connecting to negativity first thing in the morning and last thing at night. I have my meditation, my morning routine and that’s really on point. I’m not laying in bed scrolling on my phone.

Lani:
The last tip to reprogram your mind to stay positive during hard times is, surround yourself with positive people. Don’t fucking give me I’ll be quarantine, because bitch my tribe has been online for years. This is what’s so great about this is. People are so mind blown like, I’m by myself. I’m like, my network has been online, because they’re all over the world for ages. I’m not going on the news or scrolling through negative Facebook posts. I am in my network, with my tribe, the most positive women who are always looking at it from best case scenario. They’re doing their shit. They’re not staying, and drinking in the morning ,and going on their phone, and being all negative. They’re totally following these strategies, the ones that I’m sharing with you, we’re actually doing it. If you’re around negative people who are always focusing on worst case scenario, it’s super, super unnecessary stress. So be really, really picky about your network. It’s online. Who the shit are you following? Who are you taking calls from? That’s what we’re doing here.

Lani:
I’d love to know what your your favorite way to stay positive is. Hit me with your favorite strategy that you love that makes you feel really good. I’d love to know too, if any of these totally helped you right now during hard times. It’s super awesome for someone to see a comment. They’re like, I can’t be positive. My life’s so hard for me. And then you’re like, I just did this shit. I just took what Lani said, and I implemented it, and that totally changed the game and shifted my mindset for the day. Then people say, if you can do it, I can do it. It just creates this like positive momentum. Dude, this is how I stay positive. This is what I did. That’s what we’re here to do. We’re here to build off the positivity and not feed and complain about the negativity.

Lani:
Because I got all the time, I’m doing these Epic free online workshops, they’re live. I’m going to actually run them differently now like a healing meditation the same way that actually run them with my clients. This is epic and amazing. You don’t want to miss it. All the information is in the description, so click that now. I have some other incredible videos on how to reprogram your mind, so check those out. Don’t forget to subscribe, hit the like button, and the bell icon. I’ll see you soon. Have a good one.