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Lani:
What’s up? Today, we are talking about how to deal with the haters and we’re going to bring it back to fun because that is always the best medicine. For sure, the more successful we get, it’s the craziest thing. But the more haters that we get, honestly, in all my high level programs, they’re like, “When you hit this financial level, you’re going to have more haters,” and they’re not even in the spiritual realm so it’s just the way that it is. But, I was just talking to a client yesterday and I know that this is something that I use every day to keep my confidence up, to keep my mental health up, and it works every fucking time. So I’m going to, actually, in this episode, share with you a really good battle plan that works, because the ones that everybody uses, the battle plan that everybody uses to deal with negativity is wrong. The battle plan that 99% of humans use to stop the haters and to try and push forward is freaking wrong.

Lani:
So one of my clients yesterday, she got some rejection and she was like, “It just keeps repeating over and over in my head.” And now when I say it’s wrong, it’s because of this. Obviously, our niche is really successful, determined women who are mostly in the masculine, who take shit way too personal, who are trying to prove all day because they feel like they’re not good enough. So she was like, “It’s just repeating and repeating,” and you could tell that it really had eaten at her. It had dropped her energy down and down and down, because the first time you hear the negative comment or whatever, the rejection, it’s like, “Yeah.” But, as humans, we have 50,000 thoughts per day, and for most humans on a good day, 10,000 of those, only 10,000 of those are positive. So think about when you get a negative comment, what happens? You could’ve gotten 10 positive ones or had 50 things that you’re grateful for that day, but the one rejection and the one negative comment we focus on that, is what the ego does.

Lani:
It’s just repetition and repetition, and so no wonder why we can end up after one rejection or one hater comment, we can feel so bad after. Doesn’t that make sense? It’s like, “Holy shit, okay.” Because the more we think about something negative, the more negative we feel. So it had been repeating and repeating, and the first thing that we’re going to do, we’re not going to use your battle plan anymore, which is, what did she do? Win the masculine, and pushing, and proving and trying to make up for that negative comment in a proving way, in an energy that’s like, “I’m not good enough.” And that is the worst thing that we can do. We have to take a freaking pause, sister, and we have to have fun. Dude, fun is literally the medicine for everything, because when we’re having fun, it’s like, “I don’t really give a fuck about what that versus that about me.” Or, you’re like, “Whatever, I got 10 positive comments that day.” It’s like, “Okay, I did have a lot of wins. I’m going to focus on that one.”

Lani:
So we have to disrupt that negative thought so doesn’t repeat 40,000 freaking times and then your energy is zapped, your confidence is gone, and now you’re showing up as an insecure woman with no boundaries and no mental health. That’s the worst thing we can do. So I literally, here we go, get ready for it, this is my battle plan. I want you to freak and do this, I want you to own it, and I want you to tell me in the comments how it works for you. When I get a negative comment, because it happens all the time, because the more successful we get, it’s just part of the game, the more successful you get, the more the haters are there, I immediately am like, “Pause,” and I disrupt that negative thought, because I’m not going to let that little nasty ass bitch repeat in my head 40,000, 50,000 times. So I just pause. I disrupt, I use my voice, I use my hands. I’m like, “Pause.”

Lani:
And then the second thing I do is I replace that with what I do want. I replace that with what I do want to feel. And I’m just going to give it to you in a business aspect, but I do this everywhere, no matter what’s happening. But so say I get a negative hater message from a woman who isn’t even real anyway, because I know that if we walked into the coffee shop, she would not fucking walk up to me and say that shitty, negative comment to my face because I’m freaking positive and I’m a light and that’d be really embarrassing. So it’s like, dude, if you wouldn’t say that to me in the coffee shop or the gym, have a fucking clue. That’s embarrassing. So I’m like, “Okay, here’s what I am going to do. I’m going to focus on what I want.” So if I get a shitty message about the business, I just replace it with this, “I am the best coach in the entire world. I’m the best coach in the entire world. I’m the best coach in the entire world.”

Lani:
And I jump usually, but I’m sitting in for the video. But I jump and I get really excited and that freaking thought is gone. The hater is gone, because she isn’t real anyway. She wouldn’t say that to me in real life anyway. I know she’d never fucking say that to me if I was sitting at a cafe because it’s not real anyway. Social media has created this huge wave of bullshit haters that would never act this way in real life. I’m here for the real life existence. I’m here for the real women who literally want to live from their hearts and have fun and really want to have this impact and live up to their full potential. So this is a battle plan that’s actually going to work. It’s that fucking simple. The only way it’s not going to work is if you don’t do it and I’m so excited for you to try it because, dude, if you want to change your energy, you can. But if you want to hold onto something, that’s not even real, you can totally ruin your day.

Lani:
Let’s shift it from 10,000 positive thoughts to 40,000 positive thoughts and let the haters go. And it’s all about fun. If you’re ready to really take this to the next level and have so much more fun, book a call in with my team. Like yesterday, I’ll put the link in the description, because we’ve got your back, we’re here for you, and we are fucking experts at thriving and having fun, letting the stuff go that doesn’t serve us, and just freaking living our best lives. Thank you for listening. Have a beautiful week. See you next Wednesday.