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Lani:
Hello. In this video, I’m going to talk about how to truly be yourself, but I really like to call it, let the hood rat rip girl. So before we get started, don’t forget to hit the bell icon so you’re notified every week when I release bomb ass videos, the subscribe button. And hit the like button, it helps so much. Dude, I’m calling in so many bad asses while we’re in December of 2020, because let’s freaking leave this year with a bang. So, that really helps. And unfortunately, this video with another woman who you know needs to let her hood rat rip.

Lani:
So, if you’re new to my channel, I am Lani and I have helped thousands of women just this year, just in 2020, I’ve helped them lean into truly being themselves and stop faking and stop hiding, because that is so overwhelming. And the women that are attracted to me don’t have a problem being all masculine and controlling, going into that toxic masculine. The women who are attracted to me, the same as the old Lani, what they have trouble doing is actually softening, and opening, and letting the wild woman rip. Because there is enough of the freaking filters, call it like whitewashed, where everybody looks the same and we all speak the same, and everybody thinks they need to do the same thing.

Lani:
So, I really vibe off let the hood rat rip, because I’m a little bit rough around the edges. I am a little ghetto. I definitely like to cuss. I for sure love talking about sex. I love energy. I’m wild. I’m so excited, and I love that the women that are, again, that work with me have this amazing, wild side too. So while the rest of the world is trying to squash and strangle your wildness, I’m giving that bitch steroids. I’m like, “Dude, no, light her up.” I have goosebumps. Light your wild woman up. I can’t tell you how many times I have these beautiful friends and they’re like… I just have seen them over the years and they’re struggling, and they just can’t figure it out and they’re missing the mark. I just described it to one of my clients as, you know when the closet doors, they get off track and you’re like, “Ugh,” and you’re trying to close the closet door but it’s off the freaking track. And you put it back on and it’s just like, that’s what it feels when we are these wild women.

Lani:
And what we really want to do is let the hood rat rip. But what we are doing is trying to be perfect and acting like everybody else and putting the frigging filters. I love a filter, but to have your Instagram look like everybody else’s because you think that that’s going to make you happy is such a trip. So the first thing that we’re going to do, my intention for this YouTube video is to, it’s like, take a pause. It is not exhausting to have fun. It’s not exhausting to be super creative and in our feminine and dancing, letting the hood rat rip. It’s not miserable, it’s really fun and super amazing. And while we’re fighting that and trying to get the closet in the door but it’s impossible and you cuss when it gets off the track, you’re never going to ever get the end result, which the end result is, we want to be free and we want to make an impact and live up to our full potential.

Lani:
So for the pushy woman who’s controlling and goes into her toxic masculine energy, she doesn’t have trouble pushing and going forward. So the first thing I’m going to offer is, take a freaking pause. Just pause. Over pushing when you’re already overwhelmed and you’re a perfectionist and you’re trying to save everybody, that doesn’t help. Women get so confused. “I’m doing everything.” I’m like, “Yeah, you’re strangling the universe.” You’ve planted this baby tree that represents your dreams and your goals and then you’re over there strangling it. Or you’re staring at it and going, “Grow, grow, grow, grow.” It’s like, dude. I don’t stare at my plants and yell at them to grow. It’s just, I water them and nurture them and talk to them. And then one day, wow, this new blossom bloomed. This new flower came out of nowhere. But it didn’t happen from me strangling them or staring at them and, “Grow.”

Lani:
So the first thing is take a pause. The woman who is is pushing and overwhelmed, you’re not lazy. Your homework isn’t go out and go 500% and just go into your masculine. Take a pause. Soften. Take a breath. Take a step back because what you’re doing isn’t going to get what you want out of it anyway. Take a pause, take a breath, and take a step back. If you’re not having fun and you don’t feel connected and you don’t feel flow and trust, then you shouldn’t do it right now. Just take a minute, we can always come back to it. Nobody’s going to die if you take a minute, if you take a pause, if you take 30 minutes, if you just chill out for a second. So that is my first intention is just take a pause and chill.

Lani:
And then what I’m going to end this video with because I just love my new saying. I need a shirt that says, let the hood rat rip. It is like, lights me up. Is, what if you wrote all of your own rules? What if you decided? There isn’t this, “I don’t have to go show up on Instagram this way,” or, “I don’t have to be in a relationship and this has to be it.” That’s so controlling and it’s so strangling. So what if you just became the creator and you were like, “Oh, damn girl. I’m going to play by my own rules.” “This is how I’m going to show up when I create.” “This is the energy I’m going to show up in when I write.” And you didn’t compare to anyone else. So you didn’t go to Instagram and look at all the people who, by the way, it’s not even working for them anyway. 90% of people are just totally blowing steam up your arse and they’re not successful. And everyone just keeps copying the recipe that doesn’t work.

Lani:
“Oh, I’m not going to be authentic.” “I’m going to fake that I’m doing amazing.” “I’m going to lie.” “I feel like I’m a fraud.” But you’re just copying things that aren’t working anyway and it’s taken on its life of its own. That’s why social media can be so gnarly and such a weapon. So just quit looking at people who you think you should act like and talk like, and be like, and quit thinking that you have to be in a box and you can’t be spiritual and sexy, or you have to leave your wild at the door. So wherever you have strangled and pushed your wild down because you think that it’s not professional or you think that…

Lani:
I mean, here’s one of the things I used to think. “I’m so not perfect, why would anybody ever want to work with me?” So I thought I had to show up in a different way than I really was, and that doesn’t work. So, we’re going to be really honest with ourselves and stop comparing, stop going and following other people who aren’t doing things that are working anyway. Yeah, don’t follow them. Don’t do the shit that they’re doing if they don’t have everything you want anyway. So just take a break, quit comparing yourself, quit going and looking through and being, “Ugh” and getting influenced by people that aren’t happy anyway. And write your own freaking playbook. Show up in the most creative, messy, wild… I just got goosebumps. No rules, no pretty little box, no grid on Instagram where everything matches. No perfect shit. Just show up in your wild woman and see where that takes you. Live in a place of flow. Live in a place of curiosity and creativity and excitement and fun. Embrace and nurture your wild woman and let the hood rat rip.

Lani:
So I want to know in the comments, what does that mean for you? How do you let your wild woman rip? Where have you been strangling her because you feel like you should be perfect? And where are you going to let her rip? Now I want to know in the comments. I love wild. I love this wild energy. I appreciate and love your wildness. That’s what makes this so great. Don’t squish it down for society, strengthen it. It’s so beautiful. I’m so pumped. So if you are like, “Okay, I’m going to let the hood rat rip girl,” let me know in the comments. And you got to come to my free workshop. It is amazing. It’s free. I’ll fully help you embrace you so we can let that hood rat rip and stop comparing and squashing our true essence because we think that it’s not good enough.

Lani:
So click the link in the description. You can come to that free online workshop. It’s amazing. It’s super fun. I always have a great time. And don’t forget to subscribe. Hit the bell icon, hit the light button. Thank you so much for listening. Have a beautiful week. Holy shit balls. Take 2020 is this opportunity to freaking have fun. Amazing. All right, I’ll see you next week.