3 Ways To Heal & Strengthen Your Sexual Feminine Energy / Learn my top 3 ways to heal your sexual energy, which is what every woman should know.

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Lani:

Hello. In this video, I’m sharing my top three ways to heal and strengthen your feminine sexual energy. Before we get started, hit the subscribe, hit the bell icon and please like this video, it’s going to be amazing. I’m so excited to share.

Lani:
So today I’m talking about three ways to strengthen and heal your feminine sexual energy. This is totally a taboo topic, it’s rude. It’s like talking about money, “Oh my God, how dare?” Just if you talk about sex, sexual energy, you’re a whore. So I understand, but as a leader, I’m willing to say the things that no one else is willing to say because I was sexually abused as a child and I healed my own sexual energy. I just got goosebumps, it’s so beautiful. So I know that if I can do it, anyone can do it. I’ve helped thousands of women all over the world heal their feminine sexual energy as well.

Lani:
Some of my clients have been sexually abused, most haven’t, but I find that the one common block in women is, we have a guilt negative energy and negative belief associated with receiving. And as women, our body, hello, look at our vagina and our yoni. We were created to receive. So I’m going to break this down and make it so simple and give you three steps that you can start doing now, that will completely shift and heal, release that guilt, bring in positivity and love and if you have no connection to your sexuality and you don’t even know you have a vagina, if you’re just like, “I’m literally from here up.” it’s going to help you break through that first step. If you’ve already been working on it and you feel it, but you can’t control it, it’s going to help you take it to the next level.

Lani:
So the first step that we have to do in order to strengthen and heal our feminine sexual energy, because there’s never a finish line. Every day I do something and I’m like, “Oh my God, I just shared more love, more feminine sexual energy. This is amazing.” And just so you know, I am in my sexual energy right now. You’re not only in it when you’re having sex. I know plenty of women who have sex, but they’re completely disconnected from their sexual energy.

Lani:
So it’s not, “Oh, the more sex you have, the more sexual energy you have.” That’s totally wrong. It’s all about our intention being embodied and how we feel. I’ve actually hear women be like, “Well, I don’t I have a partner so I can’t do this.” I’m like, “Are you fucking kidding me?” It is impossible to be embodied while you’re making love with a partner if you first cannot do it by yourself. So even when women have partners, I’m like, “Stop trying to go to your partner. Get this together yourself.” Which is such a relief because no one’s coming to save you. No, a partner can’t do this.

Lani:
So our first step is we have to have a positive association with our sexual energy, with our vagina, with yoni, with our vulva. We have to have a positive association. So the not troll belief of society that society shoved down our throats, and there’s not one society that’s like, “Oh my gosh, you’re such a queen. You’re so amazing. You’re connected to your sexual energy.” Like, no. It’s like, “Oh, you’re a whore” or you’re a tease. Like, “Oh, how dare you talk about that.” Either be masculine and make money and pushy or be like a super slut and dance or it’s like there’s all these categories and I’m saying that’s not true.

Lani:
We either have it all or we have nothing. So if you are disconnected from your sexual energy, you don’t have it all. I know that, that’s the way you’re living the rest of your life and that’s why you feel unfulfilled. So a positive association. I growing up was sexually abused as a child, so under the age of five. And in my family, everybody used to call me a whore. We grew up fighting, fist fighting, cussing, screaming, yelling, mean fighting, fighting, fighting. And so we’d call each other really mean names. And I mean, not even just my brothers and sisters, really people in the home that were adults used to call me a whore.

Lani:
So because all of our beliefs are created before the age of seven, I didn’t have a choice when I was under seven-years-old. Those are the beliefs. I watched, I learned. I was like, “Okay, I’m a whore. This is my fault.” So I grew up with these just negative beliefs, broken beliefs. I wasn’t broken. It was my beliefs were broken. And so I had a really negative association with receiving. I was like, my sex talk was literally only whores have sex. So I had a suction eight. I was like, “Okay, if you have sex, you’re a whore. If you want sex, you’re a whore.”

Lani:
I mean, not much has changed since the days where women who were not married, couldn’t get birth control because not no women who want to have sex for pleasure or whores. This is only for men receiving pleasure or this is only to have babies. That’s fucking crazy. It’s like, “Dude, our yoni, like our vulva, it is a portal to Mother Earth and to the universe. It’s a pleasure portal. It’s a divine portal.” So I went from having a negative belief such as I’m a whore. It’s just I’m disgusting. It’s embarrassing. I’m sleazy. I would have guilt connected. I would orgasm from my mind. Meaning I wasn’t embodied, I was disconnected and then I’d feel guilty. So the mind, nobody wants to do something with a negative effect.

Lani:
Nobody’s going to want to go learn how to be embodied and make love if there’s a negative connection such as I’m a whore. So just take a moment and identify what broken beliefs you have around your sexual energy, and we’re just going to do a switcheroo-ski and replace those with positive ones. So when I first started this work, like now I know that I’m so fucking sexy. I’m going to be 39 soon. And my body, I look at it in the mirror and I’m like, “Hey girl, like Victoria Secret’s going to call you any minute to walk down that runway.”

Lani:
I literally have never been so turned on by myself. I think I’m so beautiful. I feel so amazing. And these are just beliefs. It’s true because I believe it. Someone else might not believe it, but it’s true if I believe it. So now I feel so comfortable with the word sexy because everything is a muscle. So you don’t just go from zero to 100. You can’t just do one workout and then go to the Olympics the next day. So when I was first starting, which is maybe where you are, I was like sexy, like that would truly trigger me in a negative way. So I just replaced it with the word pure. I was like, “Okay, feel really comfortable with pure.” Excited or some other words.

Lani:
Happy, peaceful. So whatever word resonates with you, there’s no wrong or right. It’s just whatever you feel. So I really was like, “Oh, I’m pure, I’m pure.” And it also made me feel so comforted because I was like, “Okay, well if I’m pure, no one’s touched my soul. So I’m okay. I’m not damaged, I’m not broken. I’m not a whore. It wasn’t my fault. I’m okay.” So the first step is a positive association. You will never be able to heal or strengthen your sexual energy. Will you have a negative connection to sex? And I had family members when I first started talking about sexual energy be like, “Oh my God, how dare you. You’re teaching women how to have sex before marriage.” “Oh my God. That’s not right.” You’re a whore basically. And I was like, “No. What I’m saying is our sexual energy is so sacred that when a woman really loves herself, she can’t hurt herself.”

Lani:
And that means we don’t just go bang dudes or women because we need attention. We don’t just like, “Oh, I got wasted and fucked some random person.” That is not cherishing our sexual energy. So I’m actually, if somebody is in fear, they’re going to be really threatened by me saying “I’m so sexy. My sexual energy is amazing. My God, I love myself. I turned myself on. I self pleasure, I love making love.” That’s really triggering for someone who doesn’t love themselves. But what I’m actually saying is it’s so, so sacred and when something is sacred, we do not take it for granted. We do not just fuck it off. Oopsies I fucked someone in the middle of the night. So I’m teaching you that this is sacred and it’s so beautiful.

Lani:
Now the second step we have to do to strengthen, to heal our sexual energy is to actually physically unlock the energy blocks and so over society for years and years of women being raped and murdered and losing their babies during childbirth. I just got goosebumps and all the trauma that we’ve gone through as a whole, and this isn’t do not run away with this and be like, “Oh Lani said I can [inaudible 00:08:26] because of all the trauma.” No, but I’m saying yes there is ancestral pain and gnarly energy fields that have been passed on somewhere along the way the love stopped and so then we’ve been hurting each other.

Lani:
But we actually can unlock and release. It’s like this horrible, gnarly rusted chastity belt, but it’s an energetic one. So I can see it because I like feel energy, but to the eye, it’s just like if I was like, “Oh, what does love look like? How much does it weigh? What color is it?” You’d be like, “I don’t know. It’s an unseen energy.” So this is the same, right? Everything is energy. It’s unseen, but you know you felt love. You know when you feel love just because you can’t see it and measure it.

Lani:
So I see this because I was that and my purpose is to bridge the gap between spirituality and sexuality. So I see this gnarly, dark, painful and I had gnarly physical manifestations like yeast infections forever. I mean, gosh, talk about fibromyalgia, like all of the autoimmune that is just a physical manifestation. It is like I see this gnarly metal, raw, rusted, it’s like digging into you and cutting into your yoni. That’s just a physical manifestation of the energetic pain.

Lani:
So we actually unlock that by moving our hips the way we move when we make love and self pleasure. And again, I just was like, “This is pure.” We were all given this beautiful movement and it’s not a coincidence that every one of our indigenous ancestors dance like this, move like this. Women, our energy and our power is in our hips. Our yoni is our super power. So it’s literally actually like getting the knees open and just actually physically unleashing the energy, like unlocking it. And of course, our breath is the gateway between us and the spirit realm.

Lani:
So it’s just actually really beautifully moving the hips and that’s how we physically unlock. And yeah, of course at first anything feels uncomfortable, but dude welcome to anytime you learn something new. I’m sure you weren’t awesome the first time you did a handstand. It feels really uncomfortable. So actually physically moving, I love to just put my indigenous music on or my really soft beautiful meditation or whatever you feel, and I just physically unlock that energetic block.

Lani:
And the third step is coming back to step one. So whatever word you chose in step one. So I’ll use pure for mine, that’s the one I chose. And actually choosing to consciously send love and healing energy to you can call it yoni, you can say vagina, whatever you feel comfortable with, yoni is just the Sanskrit word embodying all of the feminine reproductive parts. I think it’s really cute. So I like to say that. So hands actually on yoni and coming to the word, and again breathing our breath is the gateway between us in the spirit realm.

Lani:
And I would just start with five breaths. This is great to do every morning. You can get this done literally within less than five minutes. So it’s five breaths of love and intention because there’s this disconnection from women. It’s like most women are living from their chin up. So the throat chakra’s all fucked. You’re not speaking your truth and just speaking your truth is not yelling at somebody and blaming someone.

Lani:
So speaking our truth is I feel, I feel, I feel, not you, you, you. So most women are from here up. So no energy ever gets down here. You can even get energy in your dang throat. And there’s a disconnection. I’m like, “You know that this is your body, right?” You know that there’s not this external force against you. We have physical manifestations because of our thoughts, not because there’s something wrong with your body. Your body’s natural state is to feel healthy. Your body wants to feel love. It’s your mind that stops it.

Lani:
So when we can actually take the reins back and be like, “mm-mm (negative).” I’m going to say positive words, I’m going to connect. I’m going to truly focus because what we focus on grows. I’m going to focus on sending love and energy and light and just give it our attention because our attention is the most precious gift ever. You ever had someone look at you and just look at you in your eyes and you’re like, “Oh my gosh, they love me. I’m receiving this. I feel so amazing. Ah.” So yeah, that’s the most beautiful, incredible gift. We’re super vulnerable.

Lani:
So you do have to take your guard off, but hands on yoni, full attention and focus because you must close the gap between you and your body parts, ma ma. If you have any guilt or negativity, you don’t have it all. And that affects you spiritually, emotionally, financially, your sexual energy, your confidence, right? The way we do one thing is the way we do everything. And just five breaths of love and that word pure. So I would inhale pure, exhale connect pure to yoni. And do that five times. So I talked about being embodied and having an embodied orgasm. The difference between having an orgasm and your mind is like a match. I’m lighting a match and it might not light sometimes, and it lasts for two seconds.

Lani:
That’s like having an orgasm from your mind. Having an orgasm while you’re embodied is like the energy of the sun. You can’t compare them. You fucking know if you’ve had an embodied orgasm, it’s mind-blowing. So I actually go deeper into embodiment because this is my first step. This is the foundation for everything in my live workshops. So if you need more information, you’re like, “Oh my gosh, I love what you’re saying. I need more help.” Definitely sign up for that one. The link is in the comments, get in there now they’re live. They’re amazing.

Lani:
I will actually go through a healing meditation, which I’ve never done before, but now the time has been called for it to teach you how to embody. So get going on that one and don’t forget to subscribe. Hit the like button. Hit the bell icon, so you’re notified every Tuesday and Thursday I’m going to do epic videos. I have some more really beautiful videos. So go ahead and binge on those because they’re going to make you feel better since the news isn’t, and I will see you soon. Have an amazing day.